You All Need Is the Support of Your Partner.
The question came to my mind when I saw my friend's marriage in a trouble.
"Happily ever after is not a fairy tale—it's a choice."
—Fawn Weaver
A week ago, I visited my colleague’s home for lunch. Her partner was out of town for a week for some business work. She decorated her living room very precisely and made a note of every detail.
“How beautiful your living room is?” I praise her.
She was quite happy and replied, “Thank you very much. You are the one who cheered me, and even my partner never appreciated my effort.”
“Maybe he was expecting more from his dear wife.”, I just made some comments to make her relief.
A forced smile made her cheeks tight. She sighed and said, “I wish, my partner could recognise me for my contribution to this home. Leave this boring talks, come I will show you what I have prepared for you at lunch.”
I found something fishy in the couple’s relationship, but I did not force her to talk much on this topic.
“How was your new year? Did you go somewhere or relax at home?” she asked me to break the silence.
“It was pretty awesome. I went to a couple of cities driving all over up north island. My partner loves driving, and he took me to a long trail walk also. The end of the year well spent.”, I explained to her my plans.
“How about you? What did you do?” I asked.
“My partner was out for the entire end of year week. He did his celebration with his friends, and I was at home enjoyed alone with wine and pizza.” Her eyes were soggily talking about this.
“Why didn’t you go with him?” I empathise her.
She wiped her tears and said, “He would not prefer to take me with him to the parties. I tried to convince him to stay with me, but he refused. Later he came for a week and left me again alone.”
“Sorry, I am narrating you my sad stories. Leave it. We will have dinner and watch some good movies.” She tried to change the topic.
“That’s all right dear. I would love to help you if you are feeling heavy-hearted.”, I gave her a hope to fix the things.
“Does your partner care for you?” I asked her gently.
The tears started dripping out of her eyes, and she replied, “No. He won’t support me for anything. Whenever I am in trouble, he says that It’s your problem, deal with it. Do not involve me in your shitty problems. I have enough stress from my work to deal with.
Tell me to whom I will share my problems. Being a husband, he never asks me about my health or my needs. He and his work is the only priority for him. That’s it.”
What can a wife expect from her partner?
Support and loyalty.
Yes, absolutely. A wife needs a partner who can have her back if she is in trouble or needs someone to get out of the riddle. She made an extraordinary effort to choose her life partner and in place of love, what she got is dishonesty and a burden of stress.
A wife should not beg for love and affection from her better half. She has a right to fight with her partner to fix the mess spread around in the relationship. She needs a partner who can defend her in her bad times and save her if she is on the wrong path.
A happily married life goes hand in hand with the care and commitment of the couple. If you expect it from one person, it will decay very soon.
What’s your view on this?
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