The Involvement of the Family Ruined My Relationship. I Got a Solution to It.
My family members made my life hell, but I cured it.
Last year was the time of discovery for me. I learnt the hardest lesson of my life.
Not because of the global pandemic, but there was a disease involved in ruining my relationship.
I am finishing up the suspense and getting to the point.
The involvement of my sister in law and mother in law manipulated my planned life. They were not present physically, but their advice over the phone created distance with my partner.
One day my mother in law called me and asked about my health. She seems like in a good mood. Usually, she always asks about her dear son. We had an excellent conversation. I was happy at least this time I got a value in her eyes.
The same day, my husband came from the office early, he wasn’t feeling well. He had terrible food poisoning. He didn’t take his lunch because I slept for long and could not prepare lunch for him. He didn’t express any concern, he didn’t mind eating outside, but unfortunately, he got food poisoning.
My mother in law got to know about the entire case. She called me immediately and said, “Why did not you prepare lunch for him? Because of you, he is in bed.” and she continued to scold it for me.
I said sorry, I did not know it will happen to him. But mother in law kept on saying bad words to me.
I was frightened and felt like I murdered her son.
I didn't relish the way my mother in law spoke to me. I discussed the same with my partner once he was fit and fine.
My partner understood my feelings and said, ‘never mind her words, sometimes she speaks more.’
But he never talked to his mother saying you should not speak like this to my wife.
I felt awful.
We were in marriage but fought like bitches. There was the time when I broke three flower vases in a row. I lost my self-control. The reaction of my partner was just in bearable. He left home for a couple of days.
I still feel guilty for not understanding the situation but sometimes felt relaxed because I am now happy because of a hard time.
How did I found the solution?
After a few incidents like above with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law, I was bound to look for the solution. The life was getting hell, neither I could focus on my family life nor my work. The stress level was out of control.
I called out for a discussion on this matter with my husband and told him, ‘it’s not going to work out. We have to find out the solution. The interference of the family members is creating a fuss in our life.’
After a lengthy discussion, we settled down on the solution to not discuss our family matters with anyone else. I had enough use cases to explain to him like what I am cooking, where we are spending money or what we are buying, whether expensive or cheap.
In a couple of weeks, I saw drastic changes in our life, especially my life became blameless. Whenever, my mother in law asks me what you cooked? I just name a dish which my husband likes. Simple!
When my sister in law asked, why did you buy 65-inch television?
I replied to her saying, My husband got an electronics store gift voucher for his excellent performance in the office, so we bought a tv, we did not spend a single penny from our pocket.
That’s how I made my life easy and stress-free from the interference of the family members.
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